A Pennsylvania family physician and psychologist believes that what he calls a recent collapse of parenting is at least partly to blame for kids becoming overweight, over-medicated, anxious and disrespectful of themselves and those around them.
Leonard Sax has written four books on parenting. His most recent work “The Collapse of Parenting: How we Hurt Our Kids When we Treat them like Grown Ups” was the focus of a headlined article in the January 18, 2016 edition of Maclean’s magazine.
There was a time when you called your dad “Sir” and the minute he walked in the house, you jumped out of ‘his’ chair.
Not any more.
Nowadays we want to be emotionally available to our kids; we want them to feel heard and respected from an early age. We want children to be able to express their emotions, even if that shows itself in tantrums.
Children are treated like they are one more minority group to honour and empower, Sax says.
But as a result, many kids are actually overpowering their parents.
“We need to put parents back in the driver’s seat. Otherwise, the consequences are far-reaching.” the author says.
Sax writes that the current emphasis on academics means in effect that we are treating our children like little hard drives.
“It actually undermines both self-confidence and fluid reasoning, or the ability to think.”
Many people are familiar with “All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten” by Robert Fulghum. Things like:
- Don’t take things that are not yours.
- Share everything.
- Clean up your own mess.
- Don’t hit people.
There was a time, the magazine article says, when kindergarten and Grade 1 teachers focused just as much on Fulghum’s Rules as they did on the alphabet and numbers. But not any more.
We know that recent EDI scores, both provincially and nationally, show that many five-year-olds score low in social and emotional categories. Does Dr. Sax make a valid point?
The entire story can be read in the January 18 edition of Maclean’s or on their website at http://www.macleans.ca/society/the-collapse-of-parenting-why-its-time-for-parents-to-grow-up.